May 14, 2026 | Blog, Gender Identity, Homosexuality, Parents, Same Sex Attraction, Transgender
A word from our friend Michelle Kuhnen, an overcomer and sister in Christ.
God is working all things out for good for those who love Him.
Just last month, I celebrated my 37th birthday. Never would I have imagined I would be in an
extended season of singleness at this age.
Having been in a same-sex relationship in my early 20s, followed by several years of healing and
refinement in my walk with the Lord, I guess at some point I expected spiritual healing = getting all
the things I wanted. Turns out that’s not the case. There have been many times when I’ve wrestled
with the Lord about what I thought healing would look like versus what He was actually doing in me.
A few things I’ve learned in this season of singleness:
-Waiting is active on our part. It requires intention, not passivity, and often looks like daily
small steps of obedience.
“And he said to all, ‘If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily
and follow me.’” Luke 9:23 (ESV)
-God who saved you is also sanctifying you. Everything you are going through is for a purpose.
“And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of
Jesus Christ.” Philippians 1:6 (ESV)
-He already knows every detail of both the end result and the details of the waiting process.
Nothing is unfolding by accident or uncertainty. His plan is always going off without a hitch.
“…I am God, and there is no other… declaring the end from the beginning and from ancient times
things not yet done, saying, ‘My counsel shall stand, and I will accomplish all my purpose.’” Isaiah
46:9–10 (ESV)
-God is preparing us, growing us, challenging us. What feels like a delay is often formation,
shaping character and deepening dependence on Him.
“Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and
endurance produces character, and character produces hope…” Romans 5:3–4 (ESV)
My brother or sister in Christ, whether you are praying for that next season in life, or are a parent
waiting for your son/ daughter to return to the Lord, or are going through a difficulty that doesn’t
seem to end— God has good plans for you. He’s growing you and working both in and through you.
“And we know that for those who love God, all things work together for good, for those who are
called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28 (ESV)
Aug 19, 2019 | Blog, Events, Gender Identity, Healthy Friendships, Homosexuality, Transgender
Three Quick points for Christian Response to LGBTQ.
Quite often we get this basic question, “How should I respond as a Christian to those around me who have embraced LGBTQ identity or ideology?”
Although it is not an easy answer and can be quite complicated to navigate at times, there are some simple responses that go a long way.
1. All people are valuable: No matter how different our beliefs are we must remember that every life if valuable to God. As a Christian we must ask our Heavenly Father to give us His heart to love those who do not know Him. When we are able to see through His eyes we are able to show kindness and love to those who have chosen to live contrary to the Words of our God. Remember when you were once lost, you needed love and not rejection. Those who have embraced LGBTQ identity long to experience being loved and valued.
2. Build a Bridge: Before we can give advice that is received, we must first have relationship. Take time to be a friend, show love and build relationship before you speak truth that may be difficult to hear. Build a bridge to the heart of the one in LGBTQ, then wait for your friend to open the door to the LGBTQ conversation and be ready to speak truth in love. When you love long enough, the subject will come up. It is vital that you be prepared to speak the truth in scripture and through testimony of those that you know of who have been set free from LGBTQ. You may not know these testimonies personally but you have access to hundreds through our ministry online. Here is one amazing link: Such Were Some of You
3. Tell your Jesus Story: If you know Jesus, you have a story. Loving LGBTQ is no different that loving any other person who does not truly follow Jesus. Just tell your Jesus story; most likely it will not have anything to do with LGBTQ but Jesus will be lifted up and He will draw all men unto himself. The focus is not LGBTQ, the goal is for your friend to be Born again in Christ Jesus. When this happens, the rest of the transformation will follow.
Jan 15, 2018 | Homosexuality
Dee Barnes, Founder of His Wonderful Works, will share about the work of the ministry. It is dedicated to bringing hope, healing, and freedom to the Body of Christ in the areas of family, relationships, and sexuality. (Episode # 827)
Oct 24, 2017 | Homosexuality, Pornography, Sexual Addiction
Stephen Arterburn talks about his sexual addiction and how God set him free and healed him. He discusses the root hurts that kept him bound and how God used Christ centered community to create vulnerability and reciprocity leading to healthy, non-sexual intimacy with others.
Sep 26, 2017 | Homosexuality, Same Sex Attraction
Joe Dallas equips listeners with the basic tools and concepts necessary for a Christ-like response to the Gay Christian identity. Joe brings us in for a transparent look at his journey from the downward spiral into sexual promiscuity to promoting the Gay Christian identity and finally to landing on the solid ground of his identity in Christ.
During Joe’s journey, The Universal Fellowship of Metropolitan Community Churches was one of the first organizations that claimed both a Christian base and a pro-gay base and where he heard the pro-gay interpretation of scripture for the first time. He was confronted with men and women of all ages and all types who identified as Gay Christians. If you haven’t already, you will meet someone who says “I love Jesus, I have been born again, I believe the Bible is the word of God and I’m openly gay or I’m openly lesbian and God is fine with my lifestyle”. Joe’s in-depth teaching will better equip you to dialogue with people holding this position.
Joe begins with these terms and concepts to help us better understand and follow along with his discussion:
Gay Christian Identify – Terms and Concepts
- Saved – born again and positioned in Christ
- Gay – orientation, identity or behavior
- “Gay is not as simplistic as a term as we might think it to be because it can refer either to an orientation or an identity or a behavior or a combination of all 3.”
- Orientation – result of the sin nature – not a choice
- Identity – alignment with a sinful tendency – is a choice
- Behavior – erotic connection with same sex – is a choice
Five Point Progression
- Discovery – deep feelings others don’t have
- Conflict – lasts for a season “I didn’t ask to be gay”
- Resolution Attempt – tried everything, “it” doesn’t work
- Revision – to accommodate the temptation
- Gay Christian Identity – adoption / embracing
Many people believe that if you are born again you will no longer have same sex attractions and desires. They often refer to the apostle Paul stating that “if any man is in Christ he is a new creation old things are passed away and all things become new” (2 Cor 5:17). While we do become new creations, the Bible also states that we will experience a struggle between the flesh and the spirit.
Joe puts it this way, “When someone tells me well I tried to pray the gay away and it didn’t happen. I would say who on Earth told you that was going to happen? All of us have sinful desires of the flesh sometimes we are completely relieved of those desires at other times we are allowed to still wrestle those desires. As time goes on they may diminish and other times they stay and at all times we are still told to crucify the flesh walk in the spirit and not live under the power of any particular sin.”
Joe’s teaching ends on a powerful note from Dr. Paul Morris who says, “but if I were a homosexual Christian this one question would bother me, am I interpreting scripture in the light of my proclivity or should I be interpreting my proclivity in the light of scripture?”
