God is working all things out for good for those who love Him

May 14, 2026 | Blog, Gender Identity, Homosexuality, Parents, Same Sex Attraction, Transgender

A word from our friend Michelle Kuhnen, an overcomer and sister in Christ.

God is working all things out for good for those who love Him.

Just last month, I celebrated my 37th birthday. Never would I have imagined I would be in an
extended season of singleness at this age.

Having been in a same-sex relationship in my early 20s, followed by several years of healing and
refinement in my walk with the Lord, I guess at some point I expected spiritual healing = getting all
the things I wanted. Turns out that’s not the case. There have been many times when I’ve wrestled
with the Lord about what I thought healing would look like versus what He was actually doing in me.

A few things I’ve learned in this season of singleness:

-Waiting is active on our part. It requires intention, not passivity, and often looks like daily
small steps of obedience.

“And he said to all, ‘If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily
and follow me.’” Luke 9:23 (ESV)

-God who saved you is also sanctifying you. Everything you are going through is for a purpose.

“And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of
Jesus Christ.” Philippians 1:6 (ESV)

-He already knows every detail of both the end result and the details of the waiting process.
Nothing is unfolding by accident or uncertainty. His plan is always going off without a hitch.

“…I am God, and there is no other… declaring the end from the beginning and from ancient times
things not yet done, saying, ‘My counsel shall stand, and I will accomplish all my purpose.’” Isaiah
46:9–10 (ESV)

-God is preparing us, growing us, challenging us. What feels like a delay is often formation,
shaping character and deepening dependence on Him.

“Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and
endurance produces character, and character produces hope…” Romans 5:3–4 (ESV)

My brother or sister in Christ, whether you are praying for that next season in life, or are a parent
waiting for your son/ daughter to return to the Lord, or are going through a difficulty that doesn’t
seem to end— God has good plans for you. He’s growing you and working both in and through you.

“And we know that for those who love God, all things work together for good, for those who are
called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28 (ESV)