Dee Barnes’ Journey from Homosexuality to a Ministry of Hope
The oldest of three children, I was born in Decatur, Georgia in 1966. My father, though passive, was a faithful provider for the family. My mother, a stay-at-home mom, was a strong, controlling woman. Our somewhat typical family went to the local Presbyterian Church on holidays and a few Sundays each year, but there was no real relationship with Jesus. I was very active in sports, graduated from high school, and spent two years in college.
When I was 14 years old, I was molested by a male neighbor. After becoming involved with pornography, I soon became addicted to playboy magazine and became sexually promiscuous in heterosexual relationships. Later, at 15 years old, I was baptized and joined the church. As I had not heard the gospel of repentance, there was no significant change in my life. Therefore, the sexual promiscuity became worse. At age 19, I became pregnant and had an abortion. Then at age 21, I became involved in a lesbian relationship with a married woman who had two young children. After two years, that relationship ended. At that point, I began to embrace the homosexual lifestyle and frequently attended gay bars.
At age 26, after being introduced to the truth of God in Romans 1, I began to experience conviction concerning my lifestyle. I cried out to God for help. After seeking help by contacting Resurrection Life Ministries in Atlanta, I received counseling and prayer. About a week later I attended a church that preached the full gospel including real repentance. At that time in my life I became a born again believer. I knew that I would never go back to the gay life that I had been living.
I then began a discipleship program in church, but I never told anyone of my homosexual past. My soul was born again, but I had not received the needed healing from the past issues. Born again- this was an absolutely life-transforming experience for me! Born again-birthed from above-this is the foundation of the gospel that Jesus preached. Without it, I believe that no “real” life-changing transformation can happen in the believer. Through genuine repentance from the heart, the seed of God, by the Holy Spirit is planted in the believer of Jesus Christ and our inner man is born again. This process is only the beginning. From that moment on, we are changed from the inside out. Our soul is born again and we begin that process of sanctification as we walk out our relationship with our heavenly Father, through Jesus, by the Holy Spirit. Through this discipleship walk, we begin to receive healing for our wounded places in our soul that cause us to have broken relationships with others. After my first year as a new Christian, God showed me that much healing was needed. I began more in depth counseling with Resurrection Life Ministries for1993-4.
In 1994, I married a wonderful Christian man who had full knowledge of my past before we married. In 1996, I began the discipleship program, Living Waters by Desert Stream ministries and received tremendous healing in so many areas that had previously kept me from having right relationships with others. I continued with Desert Streams as an assistant small group leader and then as a small group leader. I attended two Living Waters weeklong leadership trainings and served as group coordinator for Living Waters during 2003-2005. God used this discipleship program in a mighty way to create a “safe” place for me to be real with my past and receive healing through Jesus. I have continued in praying and discipling others and teaching at local Living Waters and Cross Current programs in the Atlanta area. In 2007, I taught on sexuality in the Discipleship training School for Youth with a mission in Kona Hawaii. In 2008, I became the Ministry Director of His Wonderful Works, Inc. where I currently serve.
My husband and I have been married for 20 years and have three wonderful children, ages 19, 16, and 14. We have been attending the Christ Fellowship Church of Stone Mountain for the past 16 years. My husband and I currently serve on the church leadership team. I believe that in addition to counseling and healing ministry programs, involvement in church fellowship/community is crucial to walking out healing from same sex attraction and in learning to have real healthy relationships with others that does not involve healing group focus.